Gingerbread image from here.
I was a grump last night. What I posted is probably more than a little selfish, but I think it boils down to a couple of things:
1. I need a night out, preferably with a grown-up beverage in my hand.
2. Brad and I need to develop some holiday traditions and lay some groundwork.
I feel that my first point is pretty self-explanatory to anyone under the age of 35 who works. Now and then, you just need to get out. Normally, Brad and I are in bed by 9:30 PM. We work hard throughout the day, eat an early dinner, and try to relax. We are still settling into married life and have the additional fun of redoing the living room. We're busy people. However, that doesn't negate the need to sometimes go out and act our ages.
My second point gets more at my frustration, though I'm not sure frustration is the word I want. My father is a huge grump and I don't think he'll want to do anything for Christmas this year. If he does, he'll come over one night for a couple hours and we'll exchange gifts. Not a big deal. On Christmas, my mom, sister (family), and brother will come over to our apartment for gifts and dinner. We are celebrating with Brad's immediate family this Friday, extended maternal family on Christmas Eve, and extended paternal family on New Year's Eve. All combined, that is a lot of Christmases and not something that I will necessarily want to drag a kid (or two. or three.) around to all December. I want Brad and I to really talk about what is important to us and what we envision for the future.
I'm trying to be careful here because my mom checks in on this blog now and then, along with some members of Brad's family. I'm not saying that I don't enjoy getting together with any of my family members (in-law or blood) because I love them and I love hanging out and eating too much food. There are babies to hold and newlywed cousins to catch up with and all the aunts and uncles and grandparents. They are wonderful, but we are devoting ourselves to FIVE Christmases, FIVE get-togethers and that is a lot.
I want my (future) babies to wake up on Christmas in their own beds. I want them to see their grandparents on or near Christmas. I adore large family gatherings and would love for our (future) children to grow up running around with cousins and declaring favorite aunts and uncles. I just don't know if I want all of this in December.
How did you split up holidays? What new traditions have you put in place? How do you think it all changes when you add children?